2004 · 2003 · 2002 · 2001
2004 TOUR DIARY >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
May 14 / 7:00pm
The Edge (Augusta ME)
April 24 / 12:00pm
UNE Jamfest (Biddeford ME)
April 23 / 6:00pm
UMO Union (Orono ME)
April 17 / 6:00pm
Oasis Cafe (Oakland ME)
March 25 / 8:00pm
Emerson College Cabaret (Boston MA)
March 13 / 6:00pm
Pathways Community Church (Sabattus ME)
March 12 / 5:30pm
Elks Lodge #1293 (Gardiner ME)
February 20 / 6:00pm
Elks Lodge #1293 (Gardiner ME)
January 31 / 6:00pm
Elks Lodge #1293 (Gardiner ME)
January 17 / 6:00pm
Elks Lodge #1293 (Gardiner ME)
January 16 / 6:00pm
Pathways Community Church (Sabattus ME)
January 10 / 6:30pm
Varsity Club (Fairhaven MA)
January 09 / 9:00pm
The Skybar (Somerville MA)
2003 TOUR DIARY >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
December 27 / 6:00pm
Watson Hall (Houlton ME)
December 26 / 7:00pm
Keith Anderson House (Orono ME)
December 6 / 7:00pm
Jubilee Hall (Sussex NB CA)
October 18 / 5:30pm
Swedenborgian Church (Portland ME)
September 26 / 6:00pm
The Edge (Augusta ME)
September 12 / 7:00pm
Oasis Cafe (Oakland ME)
August 15 / 7:00pm
American Legion (Farmington ME)
August 12 / 6:00pm
Elks Lodge (Gardiner ME)
August 2 / 6:00pm
Swedenborgian Church (Portland ME)
July 18 / 7:00pm
Elks Lodge (Gardiner ME)
July 5 / 7:00pm
VFW (Augusta ME)
May 10 / 8:00pm
Drifters (Nashua NH)
May 09 / 6:00pm
VFW (South Paris ME)
April 25 / 7:00pm
UMO Bumstock (Orono ME)
April 19 / 7:00pm
Knights of Columbus (Old Town ME)
March 21 / 7:00pm
Nokomis Regional HS
February 08 / 9:00pm
WMEB Showcase (Orono ME)
February 01 / 7:00pm
Knights of Columbus (Old Town ME)
2002 TOUR DIARY >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
December 27 / 7:00pm
Watson Hall (Houlton ME)
August 30 / 7:00pm
PI Inn & Conv. Center (Presque Isle ME)
August 24 / 7:00pm
Watson Hall (Houlton ME)
August 22 / 7:00pm
The Java Saloon (Gouldsboro ME)
August 10 / 7:00pm
The Sad Cafe (Plaistow NH)
August 09 / 9:00pm
BOTB Round2 @ Lakeview Lounge (Dracut MA)
July 21 / 8:00pm
The Sad Cafe (Plaistow NH)
July 20 / 8:00pm
Cafe Eclipse (Concord NH)
July 19 / 8:00pm
BOTB Round1 @ Lakeview Lounge (Dracut MA)
July 12 / 10:00pm
BOTB @ Knights Of Columbus (Presque Isle ME)
July 01 / 7:00pm
The Sad Cafe (Plaistow NH)
June 28 / 8:00pm
The Well (Portland ME)
June 21 / 9:00pm
FFCWC Famethrowers EOSC (Ft Fairfield ME)
May 17 / 10:15pm
May Rally 2002, Delta Hotel (St. John NB)
2001 TOUR DIARY >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
November 24 / 6:30pm
BOTB 2001 @ ABU (Moncton NB CA)
September 29 / 7:00pm
BOTB @ Olivet Church (Fredericton NB CA)
w/Segue, Reliable Source, Semi-Conscious
August 10
Grand Manan Wesleyan Church (NB CA)
w/Segue
August 09
Caton's Island (Browns Flat NB CA)
July 29
Riverside Camp Senior High (Bridgewater ME)
July 26
Riverside Camp Junior High (Bridgewater ME)
July 01
Houlton Ampitheater (Houlton ME)
w/Segue
May 19 / 10:30pm
May Rally @ Dalhousie Univ. (Halifax NS CAN)
May 02
Sussex Wesleyan Youth Group (Sussex NB CAN)
April 20
Sussex Wesleyan Church Rally (Sussex NB CAN)
May 14th, 2004

      Well there's a lot to say about this show, so i'll try to keep it brief and on-topic. For anybody who missed it, i made the decision to leave the group this past spring. this was my celebratory final show.
      i was really excited, as well as understandably bummed out, when the day was upon me. I started from Boston with a rental car and a trunk of gear, and headed up to meet the rest of the band, and a handful of crowd-goers up in Augusta. Piebald, The Jealous Sound, and Avoid One Thing were already at the venue, as i was just sneaking in right before doors opened. Things progressed rather quickly, and in no time our set was on and over - before i could even get situated. The whole show was screwy though; as even with such a bitchin' show, not but a quaint little crowd was all that showed (to quote Travis Shettel)!
      As for the Softer set, it was all kind of a blur to me, and not particularly enjoyable. We played a few songs that were completely new to me, which was kind of nervewracking because i had never even heard the other instruments play the song before. But more importantly, i just felt like i was the odd man out, as i hadn't even seen the guys in a few months, and i'd already made the decision to leave. the feeling i had onstage was that of a stranger, or at least a dude who was reintroduced to his family after they'd all transformed into something else.
      i don't know how clear it was to people out in the audience, but this was a group of people i'd really never practiced with, and only knew from the occasional live performance - the last of which, for me, was 3 months earlier. every time i see them i see a month or two of changes, in personality, appearance, behavior, etc. it's sort of a freaky feeling, and given the time since i'd last seen or talked with them, i was understandably uncomfortable. during the set it was very clear to me that this was no longer my band, and it helped reaffirm my decision to go through with the whole thing. As the set wrapped, gabe made an acknowledgment of this as my last show, but i was so uncomfortable that i didn't really have anything to say on my own behalf, and really just wanted the whole thing to finish up.
      On after us was Avoid One Thing, who was on tour with labelmates Piebald. I'd never seen these guys before (although i have seen Joe in the Bosstones), and they were decent, although i was a bit distracted with post-final-show activities. I did get a chance to talk with them a little later on, and that was pretty worthwhile.
      Next up was The Jealous Sound. I suppose i was most excited to see them, because i'd never seen them before (and i've seen Piebald like 4 or 5 times before). i even listened to The Jealous Sound during my ride up from boston, just to prepare. Their live show was really good - a bit stripped down from the studio material, but they pulled it off well. I specifically appreciated the compensation with choruses and synths via vocals and crazy bass-ing.
      Last up was Piebald - kicking off their CD release tour. Until this point, the show had seemed rather "not there" and cold, detached, blah blah. Piebald, in their never-ceasing ability to do weird stuff, brought the entire crowd together in their set, and without taking off any clothes. i lost track of how long they actually played, but they definitely kept things moving for quite a while. this was probably the best Piebald performance i've seen, both because it was such an intimate setting, and also they just seemed to be impressingly tight - which i'd never noticed before.

      ending as many bizarre shows do, everybody sort of just mingled around and gradually trickled out. conversations were had with the bands and the fans. gear was relocated. sean higgins was pelted with fists - you know, the usual. after stalling for a bit, we (softer and co.) decided to dine as a group one final time before going our separate ways (Maia Chong convinced Piebald to spend the night at her place! omg!). We ended up bumping into Avoid One Thing at Friendly's, and said our nice-to-meet-you's and goodbyes once again. I had a huge burger platter that i could barely eat, and i almost fell asleep. and then i drove 4 hours back to Boston proper.
      All in all, it was a rather unfulfilling night in some ways, but in others gave me a greater sense of closure and had elements of a really fun time. I'm really glad it happened, although in another world, i would have been completely satisfied to never have been thrust into the opportunity. It was a good time, but will always be a little awkward in my mind. hopefully the small crowd who was there will always remember the show, and hopefully they've enjoyed Softer as much as i did in the long run. i suppose this is the last one of these that i'll be writing, so i guess it's just "so long".

so long
caleb.


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